Kolby's teacher asked me to come in and conference with her today. I was a bit frustrated, because there are four weeks left of school. What type of intervention would be beneficial at the tail end of a school year?
I know this year has been difficult, pertaining to consistency. Kolby was in one school for four months, then we moved. His new teacher turned out to be only a long term substitute, because the real teacher of the class he was put in was out on maternity leave. Now she is back, but has only been in the class for a month.
Since Kolby started school, I've always been very upfront with his teachers, regarding what Kolby needs. His attention and focus need improvement. He doesn't care for schoolwork, but happily goes to school. He is a bright boy that doesn't see the need to do paperwork. He's not genius by any means, and I'm not trying to say that he's above the mundane, but unless a reward is in it for him, he really wants nothing to do with it.
The psychiatrist that joined his teacher and I, in the meeting, at one point asked if Kolby was diagnosed with anything. I said he wasn't, and I didn't think that pertained to him. The bottom line with Kolby, in which his teacher agrees, is that he lacks the motivation to get things done. It's not that he can't do it. It's that he doesn't see the point in doing it, when there are other things that grab his attention, like playgrounds and computers and movies and biking.
The psychiatrists suggested, while admitting that she has never observed Kolby, that these are things she hears a lot of, and all the excuses I've given fall under the category of an Attention Disorder. Although she's not saying to run to the doctor and get it diagnosed, she said it's something to keep in mind.
It's never something you want to hear, that your child has a "disorder", and I'm not saying that he does, but it still stings. I think that Kolby's real issue is simply that he doesn't see the value in certain things, and schoolwork isn't the only category. Housework, showering, brushing his teeth....these are all things that he shrugs off because it's not fun to him. I really think time will help.
At any rate, there has been improvement in the past few weeks, regarding Kolby's school work. There is improvement (most days) with getting his homework done. He didn't throw one fit today, with everything I've asked him to do (this week he has the kitchen, which he always finds unfair.) and right now he earned some playtime outside for getting everything done with a happy attitude.
Kolby gets five stars today. Not every day is a five star day. I can only hope I can continue to help Kolby see that things are beneficial, even if it's not very fun at the moment. Who knows. Maybe 2nd grade will be amazing for Kolby. I pray it is.